Thinking today about cooling-off periods. When I was still foolish enough to engage with people of ill will (hackers/vandals) on my professional Facebook site, one of them said, “you brought this upon yourself.”
I almost responded, “that sounds like something a rapist would say,” but held back. I think the very nature of heated exchanges i s that they require cooling-off periods. “Simma down now!” was the funny repeated line from an old SNL skit.
But really, avoid telling people they have brought their problems upon themselves. If they really have, they usually already know it and you are pouring salt on a wound.
Update: the heat index here today is 100 degrees, and my air con has broken down. Need a literal cooling-off period.