This is going to get a bit explicit, so you might want to tune out now. I am not trying to be gross, just honest.
Masturbation is better than rape. I think most agree on that, even though masturbation isn’t ideal. Neither is flirting, but most people do it. In Irish literature, James Joyce famously implied the act in his early short story “Araby” and was more explicit in A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man and basically came out and said it in Ulysses. Samuel Beckett said one of his most famous plays, Krapp’s Last Tape, is really about masturbation.
Pro-creation should be the objective of sex. Consensual pro-creation. But we have to deal with reality.