On body weight
I am not proud to have chatted so much online the past few years with women socially, actually slightly ashamed. But I think I have learned some things from them.
One who was a bit a heavy called herself “fat and ugly”; she was not. Another was very attractively voluptuous but called herself “fat.” They call this “body dysmorphic disorder” in medical science, when you think there is something wrong with your body when there is really not.
I clerked for a psychiatrist in college. He made the point that even psychiatrists have trouble diagnosing their own psychological problems, even though they can diagnose others. I agree. It is hard to be objective about yourself.