On an excerpt from Guyland and two original poems
From Kimmel’s sociological book (page 191):
“There is no expectation of a further relationship. Hookups can morph into something else: either friends with benefits or a dating relationship.,, But that requires some additional and complex negotiation. … Is it even fun?”
I had a few “hook-ups” when young. It is understandable that young people with raging hormones and unstable emotions would want to “hook up,” however briefly or badly it might go.
Someone I respect said allegations of date rape have a lot to do with how a man treats a woman after an erotic encounter, as much as what he had done or is accused of.
“Guts” by yours truly
Do you want to kick me in the guts?
Do you you think I’m nuts?
It doesn’t matter too much.
I don’t like physical violence.
My sense is just try silence.
“Mean” by yours truly
Don’t say what you mean!
Or do say what you mean!
And avoid crude binaries: there is neither eros nor thanatos.
Might give one pause.